Setbacks are a particularly unpleasant aspect of life that we all have to go through, regardless of socioeconomic status, race or gender. It is important to understand that this is a part of life and it is how you rebound from every one that will determine your life not the obstacle themselves.
It is arguably more important to understand what to do when you are faced with a setback than to try and avoid one all together. But how can you effectively pick yourself up after every tribulation?
Here are 5 tips that you can apply in your lives
1) Practice Self-awareness
Understanding your strengths and weaknesses in the midst of adversity is a useful skill especially when accessing what we can do to better the situation. Embracing our limitations are a key part of this, being comfortable acknowledging them will enable us to make more informed decisions.
It is important to note that everyone is different, everyone has their own reactions to certain situations, their own pet peeves and personality quirks. Recognising yours, will allow you to be kinder to yourself.
2) Think of the long-term
When faced with a struggle, it is important to remember that this setback is not a final blow to your long-term plan,. Think of it as losing the battle but not the war. You will still have opportunities to come out victorious as long as you take the lessons from this and use it to better yourself.
Tell yourself that you will use this setback to fuel your comeback. You will come back stronger and more motivated than ever. DO NOT let one setback define you. Setbacks are a part of the long-term process, they help you learn and refine your craft. Think of it this way, the short-term pain you feel will make your future success all the more sweeter.
3) Speak positivity
Surround yourself with positivity starting with yourself. You owe it to yourself to speak positivity into existence, to empower yourself and put yourself on the right track. Do not underestimate the power of positive thinking and speaking something into existence.
It may seem a silly concept but the practicality of it truly works wonders. Imagine you just receive bad news that you did not get a job you wanted, tell yourself that there is something better just around the corner and that you will trust in the process. Doing so, will not only keep you motivated but also greatly improve your ability to see things from a "half-full' perspective.
4) Talk to someone
Finding a safe space where you can share your inner thoughts can be useful in tough times. Keeping it all in will inevitably take a toll on your mental health and your priority should be to safeguard your psyche as much as possible.
Talking to someone will make you feel like you are not alone in your battle, that you have a confidant and associate who is rooting for you to succeed. It does not necessarily need to be a therapist, it just needs to be someone you trust and you know will be there for you.
We are all humans which means that we have the need for social relationships, to connect with others. There is no more meaningful connection that confiding in someone over issues that are troubling you. Do not be afraid to open up, if the person truly cares for you, they will be more than willing to lend a listening ear.